• The Snark Urge@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    My god. Having a kid and only getting a few hours per night for half a year drove me to the brink, it’s genuinely chilling to imagine what you’ve been through. I hope you’re sleeping more now.

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      9 months ago

      We got the “don’t shake the baby” talk at the hospital. It was extremely over the top and patronising. It made a lot more sense later however. What was obvious and extremely patronising when rested and alert, barely cut through the fog, once sleep exhaustion kicks in. I can fully understand how parents can shake their baby to death, with no ill intent.

      A baby in the oven sounds bad, but I can see it happening, under the wrong circumstances, with the wrong person.

      (Oh, and my daughter made it to almost 2 before reliably sleeping through the night. The sleep deprivation was hellish.)

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        9 months ago

        We had a good run of keeping a solid bedtime ritual between 6 months and 3 years where ours would sleep through the night. Then we found out our kid is a morning person with ADHD. 🪦

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          9 months ago

          We’ve both got ADHD, so I definitely feel for you. Thankfully, our daughter seems to be more of a night owl. Not perfect, but a lot easier to cope with than an ADHD lark would be!

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              9 months ago

              It has like 73% heritability. Surely they got it from one of y’all? I’ve just started exploring a diagnosis in my 30s, and holy hell is it helping me make sense both of why I struggle so much and why my dad’s so bonkers. Really recommend working with some professionals. I’m working on a degree in psych and can navigate the criteria from the DSM fairly well but I’m also working with individual and family therapists to help me and my family work through the hell it caused us from not knowing, plus how I can better understand/manage it moving forward

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                9 months ago

                We’re pretty sure the wife has it. I’m more or less the least diagnosable person in my social circles, to my unending chagrin and everyone else’s general incredulity