• shneancy@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      I’m nearly 24 and recently I realised that the fact I heard that sentence seemingly on loop my entire life is perhaps the most contributing factor in my self doubt and anxiety :) I hate it, I’m trying so hard to unlearn it

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        9 months ago

        I got almost a decade on you, I got diagnosed at the end of 2021, it’s taken years of therapy to unlearn some of those behaviours. Seriously don’t beat yourself up over it

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          9 months ago

          I know I shouldn’t- but you know it’s not something easy. Most of the time it’s subconscious too, so to even have a chance at fighting against it I need to be calm enough to realise my body’s been getting more tense recently, and it’s often a subtle rise

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            8 months ago

            Recognising it was the hardest part for me, and no you’re right it’s not easy, meds definitely helped me but they’re also not at all a quick fix. Also, it’s less these days but work stress can definitely still creep up on me, having a support network helps, but these days I just don’t care about work as much as I used to (not that I don’t care at all, just really try to frame what’s most important to me)

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      8 months ago

      Yep. Like “You could achieve so much if only you put in a little effort”. 🗡️😵 Thanks for noticing how much effort I put in, I’ll be sure to try again in the future.