• bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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    9 months ago

    It’s a little hard to tell if the idea is that they at some point realize this will be a running joke between them but both agree that they no longer really believe it, or if each time they say it, it’s because they truly don’t want to commit to advancing the relationship.

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      9 months ago

      Or because they are traumatized from childhood of abandonment and have learned to take the option of being abandoned into their own hands as a self defense mechanism.

      I mean not that I’d know from experience.

      • nilloc@discuss.tchncs.de
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        9 months ago

        Or because they are realists, and know that sometimes people change and things don’t work out?

        True love is one of those things that really bothers me about relationships, especially early on in a relationship. My now wife of 18 years and I were very much like this couple, although we moved in together as roommates very early.

        We were friends first, then dated for 6 years before getting married, then waited 8 more years before we felt responsible and stable enough to have a kid. And I’m glad we waited, we’re so much happier now that at times along the way, and mostly know how to handle stress and loss and many of the things that have lead others we know, to break up or divorce.

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          I’ve learned that realists and idealists clash really hard in relationships.