A 6th grade girls team from Kentucky was set to go for the year-end championship tournament, but was told they were banned due to fears boys teams might ‘retaliate’ if they lost to the girls team.

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      Somebody has to, or else they’ll grow up to be toxic incels.

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        Can confirm. Was 6th grade boy at one point. Was never really taught to be sensitive and was inundated with pressure to be a cold emotionless machine. I’m getting better though. Wish it hadn’t taken me the better part of 50 years to realize that was fucked up.

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          You recognizing it means you’ve already broken the cycle. A lot of people don’t make it to where you are. Don’t be upset that it took you fifty years, be proud you made a change for the better.

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      That seems like a reasonable lesson to teach at that age. There’s a lot of social development that happens during that part of life.

      It may not be easy to teach at any age, but that doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be taught.

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      You try telling 6th grade boys whose parents failed to raise them properly to be more sensitive

      There. Fixed that for you.

      Place the blame where it should be: on the parents, for raising misogynist, violent little shits. And the boys for, you know, being misogynist, violent little shits.

      I’m seriously sick of people arguing this stuff is “just boys being boys”. It’s not. It’s learned behavior. All of it.

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        yes, everything is learned behavior, but 6th grade boys aren’t taking social queues from middle aged women giving them lectures on playing nice.

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          Stop excusing their shitty behavior. If the boys can’t be trusted not to get violent then the BOYS need to sit out. “Well, they’re violent, and we can’t talk to them about it, it’s just easier to make the girls sit out” is extremely fucked up.

          You have to understand that by saying “well the boys are already like this, so what are we supposed to do?” you allow the whole thing to be perpetuated. You are shifting the conversation away from where it should be.

          Like, I get what you were saying, and you’re not exactly wrong but this is the wrong time to bring it up. It’s a distraction from the actual problem. And that only serves to enable these boys and their parents, and the administrators for failing to hold the right people accountable

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      All men should when the opportunity presents itself. Guys have an obligation to steer boys in the right direction. We need to be role models and guides. If a middle schooler says it’s unmanly to cry, you immediately confront them and say no it isn’t. Manliness is accepting and processing and expressing your emotions.

      Eminem is hardly anyone’s idea of a “weak” male, but he’s got an entire album where he basically talks about his feelings and what a shitty time he’s had. Beautiful opens up with him saying he’s depressed and in a rut.

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      Shouldn’t a big part of 6th grade sports be sportsmanship? Things like losing with grace? If they’re not capable of learning that lesson they shouldn’t be in sports yet.

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      Easy. Tell them if they retaliate against a girl then they are banned from the league. Easy.

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      I mean, yes, we all should. Don’t be a fucking dickhead should be common knowledge to every 6th grader regardless of gender.

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        ITT: People who have never met a child before. you can tell them anything you like and they will just look around at the society we’ve built and copy what works. the rot goes a hell of a lot deeper than a few bad parents.

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          Sounds like you’ve never met a kid. They are capable of learning and receiving consequences.

          I guess I’m saying don’t project your failures onto kids you’ve never met. Most are perfectly capable of being better people without you creating excuses for them.

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          While I understand you may often get called a manchild, you shouldn’t extrapolate those personal urges to children in general. Believe it or not, they are capable of concrete rationalization.