• guyrocket@kbin.social
    5·
    6 months ago

    I have been thinking about trying online dating again. Not really looking forward to it because I expect it to be a mess.

    I think I’ll try a very minimalist approach on my profile because most people read profiles looking for reasons to reject. If I don’t give many possible reasons to reject then I should increase the pool of people to date. In theory, anyway.

    • alyth@lemmy.worldOP
      16·
      6 months ago

      please be careful dude, it’s mega bad for your mental well being and especially your self worth

      • guyrocket@kbin.social
        2·
        6 months ago

        Thanks. I’ve done it before and you are correct, there are some real assholes out there. I might get better results if I pony up some cash for a site or service.

        • magic_lobster_party@kbin.run
          8·
          6 months ago

          Not to be overly pessimistic, but paying for dating apps doesn’t do much. Maybe you get a slight advantage, but don’t expect a huge difference.

          The point about these dating apps is to make you desperate enough to pay. But once you pay they don’t want you to find someone and be done with it. No, they want to keep you in the app as long as possible, especially when you’ve proven you’re willing to pay.

          • nihilvain@lemmy.ml
            7·
            6 months ago

            Exactly this. Also it used to be that you would buy a subscription and that would increase the rate and quality of your matches. That’s no longer the case. Now it’s all transaction based. You have to pay for boosts, special swipes and shit to be seen.

          • guyrocket@kbin.social
            3·
            6 months ago

            Interesting.

            I was thinking along the lines of eharmony where (I think?) everyone pays to play. I understand the ploy you describe exists and I do want to avoid that shit.