Yeah, this sounds like what I was told by one doc I asked for an ADHD evaluation from, he told me I couldn’t have ADHD because I didn’t flunk outta high school (which he said without even checking if that was true). And that if I did have ADHD I would’ve struggled before adulthood and my parents would’ve gotten me care. Like oh, you mean the parents that ignored that I had pinkeye for two weeks and then lied to the doctor that it was two days? Or the parents that sent me back to school against surgeons orders? Or the parents who sent me to school knowing I had a fever? Oh, how about the ones that ignored I couldn’t bend my knee for an entire week after injuring it until it was gonna affect my grades?
I don’t think it works for anyone. Yes, you can work on coping skills without a diagnosis, but it won’t make you NT.
I’m unfortunately still undiagnosed, but I at least have managed to work on some of my other health problems. My spawn points deny that I have migraine because my MRI was clear. Yeah, a clear MRI is a requirement for diagnosis because otherwise I’d have been diagnosed with whatever they’d found instead. Testing for migraine is to rule out other issues that could be causing your symptoms. The extra stupid thing is that they deny I have health problems because “everyone in our family is so healthy”. Yeah, apparently autoimmune conditions, diabetes, cancer, meningitis, and birth defects are “healthy”. That’s literally just my immediate family, not including me.
I do however no longer live with them so their control over my life is very limited. They even tried to forbid me from having a hysterectomy because, to quote my sperm donor, “We want real grandkids” (yes, “real” means bio, not adopted). Yeah, and I like living (no seriously, my doc said it’s good I didn’t want to be pregnant because she would’ve had to strongly advise me against it). I just told the staff at the hospital that no one besides my partner was allowed in, and she was already with me so don’t let anyone else in.
So yeah, I’m in the pits of depression and still happier than when I lived with them. I’ve got a wonderful partner, sister, and friends.
Yeah, this sounds like what I was told by one doc I asked for an ADHD evaluation from, he told me I couldn’t have ADHD because I didn’t flunk outta high school (which he said without even checking if that was true). And that if I did have ADHD I would’ve struggled before adulthood and my parents would’ve gotten me care. Like oh, you mean the parents that ignored that I had pinkeye for two weeks and then lied to the doctor that it was two days? Or the parents that sent me back to school against surgeons orders? Or the parents who sent me to school knowing I had a fever? Oh, how about the ones that ignored I couldn’t bend my knee for an entire week after injuring it until it was gonna affect my grades?
I don’t think it works for anyone. Yes, you can work on coping skills without a diagnosis, but it won’t make you NT.
Parents are the worst. Even after being diagnosed, mine still deny I have it.
Hope things are going better for you now, friend.
I’m unfortunately still undiagnosed, but I at least have managed to work on some of my other health problems. My spawn points deny that I have migraine because my MRI was clear. Yeah, a clear MRI is a requirement for diagnosis because otherwise I’d have been diagnosed with whatever they’d found instead. Testing for migraine is to rule out other issues that could be causing your symptoms. The extra stupid thing is that they deny I have health problems because “everyone in our family is so healthy”. Yeah, apparently autoimmune conditions, diabetes, cancer, meningitis, and birth defects are “healthy”. That’s literally just my immediate family, not including me.
I do however no longer live with them so their control over my life is very limited. They even tried to forbid me from having a hysterectomy because, to quote my sperm donor, “We want real grandkids” (yes, “real” means bio, not adopted). Yeah, and I like living (no seriously, my doc said it’s good I didn’t want to be pregnant because she would’ve had to strongly advise me against it). I just told the staff at the hospital that no one besides my partner was allowed in, and she was already with me so don’t let anyone else in.
So yeah, I’m in the pits of depression and still happier than when I lived with them. I’ve got a wonderful partner, sister, and friends.