I don’t plan on ever having kids and I don’t really get the desire to, but I can respect that deciding to have a baby is a big decision and you might want to share that with your friends and others.
Like I laugh at the idea of people telling others that they’re raw dogging it but I think people who actually get upset over it come across as either squeamish or incel-ish
I feel like hypothetically it is a worthwhile thing to share with your friends that you and your partner have decided you want children and that the time is now. It’s a big life decision, and when the time comes for myself and my partner, I will definitely want to talk with my close friends about it.
The conversation doesn’t have to be about raw dogging, instead it could be about planning for children. Many people plan for children in advance of getting pergenat.
If it comes up in conversation with close friends, absolutely let them know that you’re starting to plan for a child. But making it something to announce like it’s an occasion is very weird energy.
Choosing to have kids means you’re going to have a tiny human that you can shape and nurture into an incredible adult. The choices you make as a parent directly impact how your kid grows up, what they do professionally or for fun, their values and their moral compass. Its a huge responsibility but also its incredibly rewarding when you see the choices you made actively make your child into a better person. Every time you see your child make the right choice on their own based entirely on your earlier guidance, every achievement that they make, every little improvement in their capabilities
This is a really wholesome view, if only it were more common. The comment you responded to sure seems bitter, but I can see where they are coming from. Most people I know are carrying some level of trauma passed down from parents that did not fully consider the responsibilities they were taking on. Plenty of people have kids for selfish reasons and then fail to take responsibility for the negative ways they shape them. It sounds like you have been fortunate.
idk, graduated college and got a job? Various vacations / service trips / projects in Puerto Rico / California / Nantucket / Florida? If we’re talking purely by my own standards, been a good friend? Why?
This thread, I haven’t checked your profile. Why would you pretend to be an asshole? And why want to be one? There is enough assholes in the world as it is, please don’t be one of them. It is a choice 😊
You are on Lemmy, we’re supposed to make it a nice place, so that society can flourish and not be destroyed by big tech social media. There is enough challenges ahead already.
the same range of emotions as many socially aware humans i suppose? empathy, annoyance, understanding, frustration, consideration etc. some parents are more skilled, some are less, usually just try to assume everyone is trying their best, then try my best, and go from there?
I struggle to imagine being as selfish as you about being around children in public. Kids can be great, they can also be not great. They’re just people. If you can’t be around people in public, that’s a you problem, not everyone else’s.
That’s my point children are people. Most parents don’t agree and refuse educate and teach them discipline to not be annoying which then snowballs thru the generations.
Life changing news is actually being pregnant. You don’t need to tell anyone he’s been rawdogging you.
I don’t plan on ever having kids and I don’t really get the desire to, but I can respect that deciding to have a baby is a big decision and you might want to share that with your friends and others.
Like I laugh at the idea of people telling others that they’re raw dogging it but I think people who actually get upset over it come across as either squeamish or incel-ish
I feel like hypothetically it is a worthwhile thing to share with your friends that you and your partner have decided you want children and that the time is now. It’s a big life decision, and when the time comes for myself and my partner, I will definitely want to talk with my close friends about it.
The conversation doesn’t have to be about raw dogging, instead it could be about planning for children. Many people plan for children in advance of getting pergenat.
If it comes up in conversation with close friends, absolutely let them know that you’re starting to plan for a child. But making it something to announce like it’s an occasion is very weird energy.
Do people often celebrate new responsibilities? Stop treating children as trophies and martial bandaids.
Who hurt you?
Choosing to have kids means you’re going to have a tiny human that you can shape and nurture into an incredible adult. The choices you make as a parent directly impact how your kid grows up, what they do professionally or for fun, their values and their moral compass. Its a huge responsibility but also its incredibly rewarding when you see the choices you made actively make your child into a better person. Every time you see your child make the right choice on their own based entirely on your earlier guidance, every achievement that they make, every little improvement in their capabilities
This is a really wholesome view, if only it were more common. The comment you responded to sure seems bitter, but I can see where they are coming from. Most people I know are carrying some level of trauma passed down from parents that did not fully consider the responsibilities they were taking on. Plenty of people have kids for selfish reasons and then fail to take responsibility for the negative ways they shape them. It sounds like you have been fortunate.
What? They can be a joy and a responsibility worth celebrating without being a trophy or martial[sic] aid.
Answer this question what’s the best thing you’ve done in life.
your mom
I want to change my answer
I also choose this guy’s mom
Huh I don’t remember my mom banging any special ed people.
It’s not banging if all you did was drop out of her.
The hell are you talking about lol
idk, graduated college and got a job? Various vacations / service trips / projects in Puerto Rico / California / Nantucket / Florida? If we’re talking purely by my own standards, been a good friend? Why?
Tragic your children didn’t make the list.
Do you have to be an asshole to other people? I read most of your comments here, and they are needlessly mean, and not humorous.
Are you having a tough week or something? It’s okay to be struggling. Times are tough for many now.
Take care, stranger 😊
Like just this thread or like all of them stalker? Maybe Im a nice guy pretending to be an asshole? Probably just an asshole though.
This thread, I haven’t checked your profile. Why would you pretend to be an asshole? And why want to be one? There is enough assholes in the world as it is, please don’t be one of them. It is a choice 😊
You are on Lemmy, we’re supposed to make it a nice place, so that society can flourish and not be destroyed by big tech social media. There is enough challenges ahead already.
kids are responsibilities, but they’re awesome too?
Tell me how you feel about other people’s kids, imagine your at a restaurant or on a plane.
the same range of emotions as many socially aware humans i suppose? empathy, annoyance, understanding, frustration, consideration etc. some parents are more skilled, some are less, usually just try to assume everyone is trying their best, then try my best, and go from there?
It depends on the people’s kid. Your parents kid for example seems like a dickhead.
And your parents raised a pleasant polite reasonable little angel lol.
I struggle to imagine being as selfish as you about being around children in public. Kids can be great, they can also be not great. They’re just people. If you can’t be around people in public, that’s a you problem, not everyone else’s.
That’s my point children are people. Most parents don’t agree and refuse educate and teach them discipline to not be annoying which then snowballs thru the generations.
I see your parents kept the avalanche going.