• nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    25 days ago

    try burping and then saying “oh fuck yeah that’s good” as you approach before you get too close. this way they know you’re coming and they know what you’ll smell like

  • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
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    25 days ago

    I have this too. It’s when you move too silent. I just start conversations by saying DO NOT BE AFRAID with the voice in their head. Can recommend.

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    25 days ago

    What have we learned? Anon is boring and wearing soft shoes.

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    Ooor, someone had to “survive” their family’s bullshit and being unseen was the best way to do it. Then it became so ingrained in said someone’s existential fingerprint, that they’re now a ninja without even realising it.

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      You don’t need some tragic family background to be soulless creature wearing human costume.

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        Yeah I’m like this and it’s not really a trauma thing for me. I’m just autistic and ADHD which basically means I take advice too seriously and I have a bad habit of getting into someone’s field of view or in their way by accident. As a result of being advised to be less visible every time I got in someone’s view, I accidentally became invisible. It’s something I’ve been working on lately actually and I’ve noticed I scare people less often since I started thinking about it

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        24 days ago

        You don’t need to assume that it isn’t a tragic familial background, either. Or any other sort of trauma/condition which would push one to close off. Throwing the “soulless” label aroud willy-nilly is just an extension of abusing the “narcissist” moniker. It prohibits any nuance and facilitates unjustified suspicion.

        Yes, there are sociopaths who can be considered soulless. But just because one is odd does not intrinsically mean one is soulless. There’s a plethora of other potential reasons.

        Plus, don’t forget, oddity is in the eye of the beholder in the first place. My odd may be completely different than your odd.

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          Yeah trowing around soulless label is horrible abuse in a joke post with a screenshot from 4chan.

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    I have the opposite problem—I’m a strong impression making motherfucker. Strangers consistently approach me to say “you look like [insert famous person].” Acquaintances tell me “I never forgot you.”

    And yet, nobody keeps in touch without a lot of effort on my part. I wish I knew how to transition my “I remember you” power into an “I want to be closer to you” power.

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      I am like this and do not understand it. Literally the other day a FedEx guy remembered me because he was my brother’s friend, another guy said he remembered me from 2nd grade. Neither of them at all familiar to me, and this happens regularly. I could never be a spy. It’s not looks, I’m average in looks. This is not a small town either.

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      12 days ago

      I get alot of people thinking I’m someone else.

      Maybe we fought and died together in another life stranger, but I don’t know you in this one.

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        Make sure they’re tied tight to your belt. You don’t want them to fall off, like, 'cause, what if you’ve got seven keychains hanging off your belt, and you’re jogging, and you’re happy, but then a couple of them fall off but that’s cool, you still got five, that’s enough. still, then you can keep jogging, and maybe two or three more come off, and now it’s getting not as much fun, and now it’s not a look anymore, now you’re–you got two or three, in-in-in-instead of a whole bunch, and, and people are starting to notice, 'cause if you’ve got a lot of keychains hanging off your belt, people are gonna be like, “Wow, that’s a lot of keychains,” but if you’ve only got two, people are gonna be like, “Hey, what’s with the keychains?” or, or, like, if you only have one, people are gonna come up and say, “You know, you got a keychain hanging off your belt,” like, like, they’re, they’re gonna think maybe you didn’t know, or maybe it was an accident or something. And, and, and, and people are gonna say, “Hey, how come you’ve got a keychain hanging off your belt?” And, and what are you gonna say? “Well, I left the house with seven but six of them fell off”? People are gonna think you’re an idiot. You see, you’ve gotta be able to demonstrate that what you’re doing is intentional, otherwise people will think you don’t know what you’re doing. You’ve, you’ve gotta appear in the know. You’ve gotta radiate an aura of control. If, if you only have one keychain, next thing people are gonna notice that your socks don’t match or that you’re wearing plaids and stripes or something, and nobody’s gonna take you seriously

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    25 days ago

    Approach where they can see you in their line of vision but not directly. Approach at a 45 degree angle.