The problem is not a technology one, and creating a copy of the thing you hate isn’t going to get different results.

I never expected it to be better than reddit, actually I expected it to make things much worse through increased isolation of mobs. It does.

Only thing an individual can do is be the change they want to see and be nice to people, and resist the urge to “other” everyone they interact with.

That said… if this is OPs lived experience we should be happy for them. They’re having a positive experience that we all want.