• UNWILLING_PARTICIPANT@sh.itjust.works
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    10 months ago

    It’s like this weirdly stifled cry for help, because they feel the need to be seen as hard while also REALLY wanting people to know that they’ve been through a LOT and a normal person would be hurting BAD but not them because they’re so TOUGH but please please also recognize how hard just existing is for them.

    It’s a hedged cry for help.

    Like drop the macho act and ask for help, buddy. It’s ok.

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      10 months ago

      Like drop the macho act and ask for help, buddy. It’s ok.

      Easier said than done for some

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        10 months ago

        And getting the help is a lot, a lot easier said than done.

        ‘Get over it. (Slur)’ is how the majority of the Western world would react to a man reaching out to help.

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      10 months ago

      Like anything else, you have to practice to be able to ask for help. This might be the early stages of that.

      It is lame, it is attention seeking. All attention seeking is a cry for help, whether one knows it or not.

      I have found that the things I go out of my way to criticize are the things that hit closest to home, or that I might be afraid of being.

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      10 months ago

      Like drop the macho act and ask for help, buddy. It’s ok.

      And watch the people who said they cared suddenly get real scarce.

      I wish it wasn’t that way, and I’m happy it’s no longer that way for me. But there are people around you right now who know of they speak up, loved ones and friends will tell them “it’s no big deal” or “It’s all in your head” or my favorite, “man up”.