• Sombyr@lemmy.zip
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      10 months ago

      My dad was like that. I remember a moment where my dad couldn’t understand the solution to the Monty Hall problem, so I tried to explain it to him and instantly got yelled at and sent to my room for contradicting him.

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        Let’s never repeat this bullshit narcissism to our kids if we choose to have em.

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          Are you coming onto me?

          Ah, just kidding. In seriousness though, I’ve chosen not to have kids on account of being so mentally fucked up by my childhood that I don’t want to put a kid through having me as a parent.

          Although luckily my dad did mellow out with age. He’d kinda also been equally fucked up by his own childhood and refused to seek help until I’d left, my mom left, and later my old sibling left, and I refused to speak with him anymore. Last year I got a massive, 4 page, single spaced apology from him for everything he’d done, so luckily things are looking up at least.

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            They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
            They may not mean to, but they do.
            They fill you with the faults they had And add some extra, just for you.

            But they were fucked up in their turn By fools in old-style hats and coats,
            Who half the time were soppy-stern And half at one another’s throats.

            Man hands on misery to man. It deepens like a coastal shelf. Get out as early as you can, And don’t have any kids yourself.

            This Be The Verse by Philip Larkin

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              I wish I’d known this before I heard it in Ted Lasso, but damn that episode was good regardless.

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            That’s good to hear at least that your dad somewhat came around. Mine left the family and sued us (lost but cost me tens of thousands in legal fees) and ran off with all the money. He now has a second family.