The beam is clearly decorative. The smaller posts having variable width shows that this bridge was made beyond purely utilitarianism in mind. The bridge still looks to be a generic overpass, so I wonder if this bridge exists in real life. It would not surprise me if there were other decorative elements not shown in the drawing
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Sure, but the overall intent holds true. Not just in professional settings, it’s important to have the skill to reframe a negative comment into a positive one.
This is probably what I would say:
It sounds like you’ve got everything you need for the meeting. Would it still make sense for me to attend?
If that’s the case, then I think I’d be more useful handling some other tasks in the meantime. Please keep me updated on the outcome of the meeting
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Why are you here and not on Reddit?3·16 days agoI use Reddit through Relay and it’s gone now. Even if I want to use Reddit, I have to jump through hoops to use it.
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Do you care about up/down votes?6·17 days agoTo me, it’s a way to quantify how other people feel about my own positions. It’s neither good nor bad to be upvoted or downvoted. People have unpopular takes sometimes and you shouldn’t stake your identity on the amount of upvotes or downvotes you have.
Instead, upvotes and downvotes are most useful for other people to guage comments. Generally speaking, if a comment is universally downvoted, that likely means the position is unpopular enough that it adds no value to a discussion, and is therefore not worth engaging with.
I consider it to be a system built upon mutual understanding - that you don’t have to seriously engage with everyone’s viewpoints, and conversely, that nobody has to seriously engage with yours.
It becomes a problem when upvotes and downvotes are gamified like on Reddit, because Goodhart’s Law demands that it stops serving its purpose when people are only attempting to optimize their upvote/downvote ratio.
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto Mildly Infuriating@lemmy.world•“Yay! We made our project objectively worse!”English152·18 days agoIt doesn’t get crispy, but on the other hand, less microplastics on your food, so that’s a fine trade anyways.
Pro tip: microwave for half the microwave time, then bake for half the baking time. That reproduces the original crispiness without the sleeve
If parasites weren’t an effective life strategy, there wouldn’t be parasites in the world
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto PC Gaming@lemmy.ca•AMD Says You Don't Need More VRAMEnglish516·21 days agoThe big deal is that the vast majority of gamers aren’t techies. They don’t know to check VRAM. 8 GB is insufficient nowadays, and any company that sells an 8 GB card and doesn’t make it obvious that it’s low-end is exploiting consumers’ lack of knowledge
Funny you bring up eel reproduction. Had to share. https://youtu.be/TzN148WQ2OQ
Have you never seen a bottle brush? If not, get one. It’ll change your life
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto Asklemmy@lemmy.ml•How do I politely turn down a teenage girl?54·1 month agoFirst, make sure you’re never alone with her. It’s important to have someone be able to vouch for you that nothing bad happened. Even if it’s not her intention, rumors spread and mutate in the most unexpected ways, and you’ll want to make sure you’re in the clear if it ever comes to pass that people start to suspect that you are having a relationship with her.
Second, you’ll want to speak with her. Make it clear that you are serious and that this is a serious talk. Whenever you see her next, just say something like “we need to have a talk.” Might be cliche, but the cliche aspect of it reinforces the serious nature of it IMO, since most people already associate that phrase with something serious.
You don’t need to be rude, but you need to be very clear where you stand on the matter. Make it clear that 1) you are not in a relationship with her, 2) you do not wish to be in a relationship with her, 3) you don’t appreciate her saying that you’re in a relationship with her. With talks of this nature, there’s no point beating around the bush. She may be temporarily hurt, but there is a difference between being hurt due to rejection and hurt due to injustice. She will come to appreciate the honesty in time.
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto Games@lemmy.world•I'm a console gamer so, Why the hate on the Epic Games Store?English4·1 month agoIt was a while ago, I don’t remember off the top of my head which specific game I’m remembering. Doing a brief search, it appears that this happened to Unreal Tournament and Rocket League, though it appears that the games still work for the people who bought it before the unlisting. I think the concern was losing functionality, especially for server-based or multiplayer games
The thought has never crossed my mind, and it would have never crossed the minds of anyone I know. I have no urge to cheat and neither does my partner. I have generally thought that it’s a very unusual and uncommon phenomenon for someone to cheat, and I find it surprising how many people here think otherwise
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto Games@lemmy.world•I'm a console gamer so, Why the hate on the Epic Games Store?English782·1 month agoSweeney (the CEO of Epic) says that he wants competition with Steam, but many of his actions point toward that he really just wants to be the guy at the top (ie, he wants to be the monopoly instead of Valve). He’s taken a fair number of anti-consumerist stances, which vary from understandable to clearly anti-competitive.
Epic is known for making exclusivity deals with 3rd party studios in which Epic bribes the studio with money, and in exchange, the studio does not release their game on Steam for 1 year.
At several points, this occurred after a studio already said that they will release on Steam, and the studio would have to walk back and delete their Steam listing.
Iirc, at one point Epic bought out a studio and had them remove the Steam listing for an already-released game, causing the game to be unplayable for people who had already bought the game
Edit: this apparently happened twice (Unreal Tournament and Rocket League), but it appears that the games still work for the people who bought it. I think the concern was actually that Steam players would lose functionality due to not being supported anymore after the unlisting
The Epic Game Store released in a non-functional state, and development on it is extremely slow. The first impression of the broken store likely still influences many people’s impression of the store. But it’s still missing many features that many gamers want to see in a store.
There were various rumors when the store first launched that it contained spyware. My understanding is that those rumors never fully got disproven, especially since some of the claims were supported by at least some evidence
Epic does not support Linux, and Sweeney has openly said that he does not plan to support Linux until it becomes more popular. He did immediately jump on board with supporting Arm though, which caused a lot of Linux gamers to think that he just doesn’t want to support Linux
Sweeney is a pretty abrasive person and iirc he made a lot of concerning statements on his social media. Several of them (as mentioned above) indicate that he wants to dethrone Valve so that he can be the monopoly instead
Overall, many gamers are in support of more competition in the game store space. Unfortunately, many gamers also think that Epic is an untrustworthy competitor, and they believe that Epic has a serious chance of making the gaming industry worse if they become more popular. As a result, many would prefer for Steam remain the monopoly rather than to take a bet on Epic.
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia?16·1 month agoI don’t think you seem to have any problems, but it sounds like your partner may have some things that they’ll need to work out.
People are creatures of habit - while it is true that your partner is being an asshole, I currently don’t have any reason to believe that they’re doing it out of malice rather than habit.
It sounds like your partner may need to seek professional help, because it is their responsibility to manage their ADD/depression, and it sounds like they may be struggling to do that. It is not your responsibility to manage it for them
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto memes@lemmy.world•You can smell the WalMart from this picture alone.74·1 month agoThis is an unnecessarily rude comment that just proves that the parent comment was right in saying that you’re an unpleasant person. I hope you reconsider what behavior you consider to be acceptable
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•Newbie, what app works best with Lemmy?5·1 month agoThunder feels most similar to Relay, which is what I used for Reddit. Honestly, I get the feeling that all of the apps are pretty polished and are customizable enough that you can make one look exactly like the others
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Is your sleep schedule actually messed up, or are you just aligned with a different timezone?4·1 month agoEating is also a really big factor for the body’s circadian clock. Not sure what your lifestyle is like, but I would try to avoid eating anything when it’s late.
Interestingly enough, autism is also noted to affect the circadian clock, so it seems like medical and psychological conditions can exert an influence too.
And it could be entirely possible that you are simply a night owl. I just find it disingenuous that some people would use the circadian clock as a way to justify poor sleep habits, especially if they have habits that disrupt their circadian clock. It kind of dilutes the struggles of actual night owls
Contramuffin@lemmy.worldto Showerthoughts@lemmy.world•Is your sleep schedule actually messed up, or are you just aligned with a different timezone?131·1 month agoAmusing thought, but doesn’t really make sense biologically. Your body doesn’t know your geographical location. It just reads the environmental time using a bunch of different inputs and guesses at what the actual time is. Your body is actually fairly good at guessing the time, but people are just naturally predisposed to sleep later or earlier.
That tendency is influenced by genetics and also changes over time with age, but I also heavily suspect that people are actually just messing up their circadian clocks without knowing it. Try dimming your lights after sunset, you’d be surprised by how early you get tired.
In the book, it’s fairly clear that he did kill everyone but only got away with it because 1) nobody can tell anybody else apart because everyone looks the same and 2) everybody is so self-centered that even if they did know a murder took place, they didn’t bother to report it.
It’s very heavily implied in the book that the landlady covered up Paul Allen’s (and multiple other prostitutes’) murder, presumably to maintain the property value of the apartment. Unfortunately, a lot of the clues don’t translate well into a movie:
- The apartment only recently became available to rent
- Bateman notes that the paint on the walls is still fresh, barely dried
- Bateman notes that there’s a lot of potpourri laid out, as though to cover up a smell
- Iirc the furniture was also brand new
- The landlady immediately knew who Bateman was and asked him to leave
No, unless you already know how to pilot the ship, playing in VR is probably going to get you severely motion sick