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  • Manticore@lemmy.nztoPolitical Memes@lemmy.worldthats why
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    23 days ago

    While thats also true, Im talking about reading comprehension, not Poe’s Law.

    If you’re using "s, it indicates that it’s not something you’re actually saying. You’re quoting somebody else, including a hypothetical person that you’re satirising. It’s explicitly saying they’re not your real words.

    That’s an issue of reading skill, and while we can certainly work to make writing more accessible for those that aren’t great at it, I don’t appreciate how people blame the writer for the treatment they receive for what is, at best, a mutual misunderstanding.

    It’s gotten bad enough that I can say in the comment the person I am satirising, and again in a concluding statement. But without the ‘/s’, people still accuse me of being a monster for believing a heinous thing I deliberately used provocative language to describe.






  • Although they hypothesised that petroleum/synthetic gum would have more, the article says the conclusion: the amount of mucroplastics were actually the same for both organic and synthetic gums. (Though It doesn’t state clearly if it’s low trace amounts from the environment, or just a big ol’ stick of plastic and nothing else).

    So if it bothers you, you should avoid all gums. But also, literally ALL our food has plastics in it now. All of it. Even fresh vegetables.






  • Manticore@lemmy.nztoGreentext@sh.itjust.workswant to be a woman
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    28 days ago

    Very very few people in this world feel truly attractive, women included. Body image and self-esteem are almost universal problems. This is not your fault.

    I suspect this is an issue of perspective. You desire women, so you believe you must be a woman to be desirable. And you desire them for their beauty, so you believe you must be beautiful. This is perspective, not objective truth. Neither has to be true of you. Only if you decide its the only option do you leave yourself with no option at all. At that point, you’ve decided failure for yourself.

    If what you want is to feel desirable and you teuly are ‘ugly’ (whatever that means to you), your odds are better if you’re attracted to women. In relationships, women more commonly value non-visible traits like communication, resilience, consideration, humour, and skill. Attraction is more holistic. I’ve known of at least two men getting married with almost no face at all (one taken off by a grizzly bear, the other obscured by large benign growths). Both had kids, too. In a healthy relationship, holistic desire grows.

    You are thirsty in the desert, and that’s awful. You fantasise about drowning in the lake because it looks like a solution to your problem, just as those drowning desperately wish they could stand on the solid cracked earth.


  • Manticore@lemmy.nztoGreentext@sh.itjust.workswant to be a woman
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    29 days ago

    I’m reminded of someone I know. He felt something similar for a long time. Ultimately he concluded that, for him, what he really wanted was to feel attractive and desirable. And sincr he believed that only women could have that, he spend years conflicted about wanting to be a woman.

    After some time around sex-positive people, he had experiences that helped him feel desirable and attractive as a man. He realised that was what he actually wanted, and he’d just been taught beauty was a women-thing and thought he had to be a woman to have it.

    Maybe that rings true for you, too. Maybe all you really want is to feel beautiful, wanted, desired. Maybe want you dislike isn’t your gender, but the role society has assigned you for it.

    Only you can really figure that out. I just wondered if my friends story would mean something to you… Being trans is a valid answer, but it isn’t the right one for everybody.


  • If the people you thought you were close to have ghosted you and are supporting her instead, consider that she may not be honest about the reasons you are divorced and has convinced them she is the sole victim.

    It sounds horrible, and one would hope a true friend would ask for your story first. But it’s pretty common to readily believe the women are the victims in unhealthy relationships, especially of men.

    We dont want to judge, dismiss or blame victims, so we readily believe people when they claim to be one. This is especially true of women.


  • It absolutwly can be small talk.

    Small talk is a low stakes way to build rapport without exchanging any information that is intimate, vulnerable, or confrontational.

    Talking about the weather is boring small talk. I hate boring small talk very much, but small talk in general is important for building rapport with people you don’t know well enough to be vulnerable with.

    Talking about pop culture, like [TV SHOW] or [LOCAL TEAM], are also small talk.




  • Perhaps majority is the wrong word, rather she is the most popular with horny humans. Im not referring to humans in general but pointing out that I’m saying Lisa is no. 2 on a ranked list. People are freaking out over Maggie when Lisa is also right there and far higher.

    So I suspect they’re both on the list for the same reason, and Lisa is higher because her adult version is used way more often and is more familiar.

    EDIT: Jesus Christ, the list has Louise Belcher. She’s 5




  • If it’s a video. I fcuking hate when I’m trying to find a tutorial, or recipe, or some other help and the results are people recording their screens while they dick around with zero subtitles or chapter headings.

    I can scan text for the relevant part within seconds. I’m not interested in two minutes of WHATS UP LADIES AND GENTS, missing the crucial step because it looks so similar to the irrelevant steps either side, lack of subtitles for my poor hearing, or hard to see on my tiny phone screen etc.

    Videos are easy tutorials/references to prepare because you have all these channels of information you can use simultaneously. They are the hardest medium to find specific information in because they use so many channels of information.

    I think that videos are enjoyable to consume, but they’re not good at passing on information, especially if the recipient is resistant already (because you’re asking them to do extra work to support your point).