Sasha [They/Them]

Yes, that Sasha 🍉

Transfemby 🏳️‍⚧️⬛🟪⬜🟨🏳️‍⚧
They/them

Anarchist/your local idiot with a guitar

If you’re occupying land in so-called “Australia”

If you eat food

And if you live on Earth

Introducing Trans Action Network Naarm! 🏳️‍⚧️
(Part of a wider solidarity network too!)

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Cake day: December 12th, 2023

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  • It’s always going to be a personal preference kind of thing. Personally I don’t really care much about “passing” and I’m usually completely okay being outwardly trans, unless it’s being used to harass/bully.

    I had a weird experience the other day when getting an ultrasound where I told the tech I was obviously on HRT which she immediately denied. I get she was trying to be supportive, but it kinda just made me feel worse because of how awkward it was lol.


  • I love this stuff, I always put it on my face. It’s just enough to stop feeling like my skin is as dry as paper and it’s not oily, it feels more watery than anything. I switched to it years ago, use it after every shower and now my skin is so nice, presumably just because I’m not leaving my face all dried out, I doubt there’s anything special about this stuff.

    That said, I do also use a very gentle sorbolene body wash and hand soap because my skin was too fragile for normal soap. If I don’t, I tend to get lots of sores on my fingers.


  • It’s been a funny little year for me, but I think all the pain has changed me in some important ways. Glad to say I’ve been sober for ages now, I’m legitimately happy, stable and thriving.

    This last week has been positive, me and all my friends are being evicted from my favourite space in the city today but we’ve finally got a new home lined up for our federation and not only should it be permanent, it’s so much bigger and better, we really lucked out. In just under a week, they’ll be voting to let my trans activism collective join and I’m unbelievably excited.

    It’s really cool to say I’ve gone from a terrified anxious mess just trying to find a social life to someone who looks after people, helps keep things running and builds community. I’m proud of me, I’m glad I survived this year 😊


  • If you can find spaces outside of home where you’re comfortable being yourself, you can use it as an opportunity to learn that it’s safe to be genuine and then push things as you get more comfortable.

    I found outfits that suited me really well. And then I went out and felt self conscious anyway, but when my friends spontaneously complimented me, it started changing.

    Confidence takes time, but you’ll get there. The trick isn’t to not care what others think, it’s to only care about people what the right people think.





  • I’m not poor but most of my fun stuff is free, hanging out at parks (picnics with friends or just relaxing with a book or something), walking/cycling trails, free or pay as you feel shows and weekly food not bombs community dinners.

    Nothing wrong with a 1 bedroom apartment tbh, and I don’t understand why not living in a house means you can’t buy and own things lol. I’ve got loads of stuff I can do here if I don’t want to go out, I’ve even got plenty of private outdoor space. If I didn’t have so much stuff keeping me busy I could very easily stay in my apartment for weeks at a time, only really leaving to get groceries, I’ve never gone mad from it.

    Tbh I find this life is significantly cheaper given I don’t have as much maintenance as a house, and I don’t need to pay the absurdly high costs associated with a car.

    Edit: looks like jerboa broke for me so I’ve got no clue if this posted or what anyone else is saying lol



  • It’s been a hard 5 months, but I think the end is finally in sight. I’ve given up on seeking help from the medical system, I’ve been in the ER begging for help multiple times and all I ever got was a medical certificate.

    Instead I’m working through my stuff one day at a time and relying on friends for help when I need it, it’s hard but it’s working. I’m having more and more good days, even if I’m still struggling.

    Here are some wins:

    • I’m 5 days sober
    • I’m somehow maintaining a sleep routine
    • I’m in love with songwriting more than ever
    • I’m on top of my to-do list
    • I’m cooking and eating well(ish)
    • I’ve started putting weight back on (I think)

  • Yup, getting skills is just worthwhile pain. It’s been hard trying to convince some of the younger tech interested people I know to put in the effort instead of going down the AI route, but I know exactly where that’ll lead them. You don’t get good at this stuff by succeeding, it’s the endless failure.