BING QI LIN!!!

any tips for not injuring vocal chords?

ignoring or not having a chance to find it?

Thanks! It’s scary how simple it sounds to play, knowing how vast the possibilities are calculations are. I should go find old korean guys in the park and start getting my butt whooped i guess

How about the entertainment industry as a whole?

Thank you. I’ll do my best regardless. Will you be joining us?

I’ve been watching that on TV lately! We call it Ba-dook :) I do really wanna learn it, but it seems sooo complex

Oh yeah, I could see that. I’ve only seen a couple Wendover videos but they seemed decent

Um, Chess

Love Tasting History. one of the best channels. he does great research.

stoked for Bonsai channel, thank you

mehhhh… he’s a bit corporate now. he started as an excellent channel for teaching concepts in physics to layfolk using engaging questions. and he does great research. but i think more bias has crept into his content since he got big

Real Life Lore sucks. he’s algorithm bait. he isn’t necessarily factually wrong, but he’s just shallow. it plays better to the algorithm. he is pretty much the antithesis of “in-depth”. so I’m not really sure what you’re looking for if that’s the benchmark

so I’m not interested in this conversation but I do need to acknowledge that you’re misusing the term “gaslighting”. it matters. disagreement, or sharing a perspective you don’t agree with, is not gaslighting.

gaslighting refers to a specific form of domestic abuse by which the abuser attempts to control their victim by making them doubt their own faculties of perception, question their grasp reality, and ultimately become dependent on the abuser.

in other words, if you say it was great weather yesterday and i say “what? were you in the park at noon? the weather was so hot!” that’s not gaslighting. that’s having a different experience. likewise if you ask if I went to the park and i say “No”, but i really did go, that’s not gaslighting. that’s called “lying”. lying is not, in itself, gaslighting.

now if you say “but i saw you! you were carrying a green parasol!” and this were true but I went and threw out the green one and got a yellow one and replied “no you didnt, i dont even have a green one, this is my parasol it’s clearly yellow, are you sure you recognized me? maybe you are having some brain damage, let’s make an appointment and get you checked out” that’s getting closer to gaslighting. hey, that’s actually sort of similar to what you said to me, although I dont think you were gaslighting me, i think you were just being a self-righteous american jerk.

I know this is irrelevant to what you were hemming and hawing about with that other commenter and you probably won’t care, but this matters way more to me. please don’t misuse words that we depend on for understanding IPV

Just a few years ago you weren’t downvoted just because someone disagreed with your opinion.

Lol what? What year did you join Reddit? As someone who’s been there since 2008, I promise you that this is nothing new.

Valid point. Although I bet there would have been some outcry if they had cast anyone without red hair TBH. Some people are just obsessed with red hair.

But there would definitely have been less outrage if they casted a blond white lady instead of a black lady. Still relevant point.

If tomorrow they announced that it had been happening for a while? Perhaps we’d move on.

If tomorrow were First Contact? Everything would change.

Hey be nice to them, that’s actually written in chapter 420 of Das Kapital, “Thou shalt save the world by being dicks online”

Yeah, totally, unbiased reporting to advocate for those poor vulnerable ISPs…

Some good interactions here. Cant speak to the emotional content because I wasn’t present. Emotions are messy, who knows what happened between you two.

All I can say is that the relevant parties saw your conditions of living and recognized them as the risk factors that they are. You living well, and choosing that life, is a pleasant outcome. But they can’t know that without doing a follow-up assessment. For all they know, you’re living in your car scraping up railroad spikes to buy today’s heroin.

Highly disagree with the advice to lie to your doctor. As long as you are not a danger to others, making explicit threats to harm yourself, or harming a child, and as long as you’re following the laws, then they can’t force you to get services.

Next time, just tell them that you’ve already been assessed and were found to not be at risk. And if someone stops by, be friendly… they’re doing a really hard job that puts a lot of good into the world for a lot of people. Take any pamphlets they got cuz it might be useful knowledge. Educate yourself, etc. And keep on truckin! Thanks for the post.

Thanks for the response!

If all people involved in something fully understand and consent to what is happening, then they should not be “judged” for it.

Here’s the thing: this statement still hasn’t entered into non-judgment itself. When you use the word “should” you’re already holding one thing higher than the other. And again, this is natural for us to want to do! But who is consenting to this moral framework in the first place?

That’s more than a loophole or caveat – it’s a limitation of all judgment. Judgments don’t exist in the world; they are passed by judging creatures. So the only way to find a world without judgment is to, at the very least, practice separating yourself from your own judgments. Seeing the world for what it is, we can pause in our concern for what ought to be.