• blubfisch@discuss.tchncs.de
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    8 months ago

    You need to understand that this is not about sexuality, but about patriarchy. For them sex is about power over women, not about pleasing them. Cunnilingus focuses on female pleasure, which is a problem for this world view. Men unwilling to take part in the oppression of women are seen as “unmanly”. This is expressed through the accusation of being “gay”.

    • Passerby6497@lemmy.world
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      8 months ago

      Men unwilling to take part in the oppression of women are seen as “unmanly”.

      Which is funny, because it’s much more “unmanly” to be so afraid of not being the ““alpha male”” that you’re afraid of giving your partner pleasure. How insecure in your manhood do you need to be to think eating a woman out lowers your status?

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      8 months ago

      Yeah they see a man submitting to a woman as gay. I’ve long suspected it’s part of why so many submissive men are into forced bi. Though I think that’s also because a ton more men are actually at least a little bi than admit it. But yeah and so many men see giving oral as an act of submission rather than an act of mutual pleasure. It makes me sad for all y’all straight folks that such attitudes are even remotely common.