When I got my vasectomy, my urologist didn’t ask me anything about my wife’s feelings on the subject. Because it’s my body. My urologist made sure I was informed on the risks, including that it may be irreversible, and the historical odds of being able to restore fertility.
I was young. Every time I came into contact with a nurse who found out I was getting a vasectomy, they started to ask me inappropriate questions. My urologist apparently knew to expect this, because he was always on top of them before they were even able to finish, telling them that it was “more common these days for young people to want to be sterilized,” and defending my autonomy without me even having to say a word. I felt very supported and I appreciated this a great deal. I would have appreciated even more if I had the same support from the nurses.
Incidentally, get a vasectomy. No, seriously, get one. If you don’t have vas deferens, encourage someone you know to get a vasectomy. It’s the best.
So I went to go get a vasectomy at age 30. The lady dr tried her damnedest to get me to reconsider. I ended up leaving the office waiting room right before I was to have the procedure. I was very scared because of what the Dr had told me.
Told me I would have constant testicle pain, etc (not true).
So I didn’t go through with it. God I wish I had. I don’t have any kids or anything, but at 41 I finally got it done. Mine went as badly as one could go. The infection and inflammation didn’t go away and I was in great pain for weeks before finally they found the right antibiotic. But, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Mine went horribly and I’m still out here telling you to get it done. It’s amazing. What does that tell you?
I don’t recall the stats anymore but the rate of satisfaction vs regret is very high and increases over time. Vasectomies are fantastic. I hate that there is still kind of a childish stigma about it.
My family doctor asked what my wife thought before scheduling me in, as did the doctors of my friends who’ve had them. My doctor wasn’t too aggressive about it but the doctors of some of my friends were.
For people that are single it shouldn’t be an issue but I feel like it’s a good a back check on people who are married (or common law with kids)… You shouldn’t be making decisions like that on your own if you’re in a dedicated relationship and if the two if you can’t come to a common consensus the whole relationship needs some major work (or to end).
When I got my vasectomy, my urologist didn’t ask me anything about my wife’s feelings on the subject. Because it’s my body. My urologist made sure I was informed on the risks, including that it may be irreversible, and the historical odds of being able to restore fertility.
I was young. Every time I came into contact with a nurse who found out I was getting a vasectomy, they started to ask me inappropriate questions. My urologist apparently knew to expect this, because he was always on top of them before they were even able to finish, telling them that it was “more common these days for young people to want to be sterilized,” and defending my autonomy without me even having to say a word. I felt very supported and I appreciated this a great deal. I would have appreciated even more if I had the same support from the nurses.
Incidentally, get a vasectomy. No, seriously, get one. If you don’t have vas deferens, encourage someone you know to get a vasectomy. It’s the best.
Edit: This was in southwestern Ontario
So I went to go get a vasectomy at age 30. The lady dr tried her damnedest to get me to reconsider. I ended up leaving the office waiting room right before I was to have the procedure. I was very scared because of what the Dr had told me.
Told me I would have constant testicle pain, etc (not true).
So I didn’t go through with it. God I wish I had. I don’t have any kids or anything, but at 41 I finally got it done. Mine went as badly as one could go. The infection and inflammation didn’t go away and I was in great pain for weeks before finally they found the right antibiotic. But, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
Mine went horribly and I’m still out here telling you to get it done. It’s amazing. What does that tell you?
Don’t believe the scare tactics. It’s bullshit.
I don’t recall the stats anymore but the rate of satisfaction vs regret is very high and increases over time. Vasectomies are fantastic. I hate that there is still kind of a childish stigma about it.
Right! It’s good to have the option for everyone.
My family doctor asked what my wife thought before scheduling me in, as did the doctors of my friends who’ve had them. My doctor wasn’t too aggressive about it but the doctors of some of my friends were.
For people that are single it shouldn’t be an issue but I feel like it’s a good a back check on people who are married (or common law with kids)… You shouldn’t be making decisions like that on your own if you’re in a dedicated relationship and if the two if you can’t come to a common consensus the whole relationship needs some major work (or to end).