• NotAnOnionAtAll@feddit.org
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    18 days ago

    As a mostly straight dude who does not score high on conventional physical attractiveness I encourage absolutely everyone independent of their gender to hit on me. Being told/signaled that I am attractive is always welcome.

    Just don’t blatantly ignore boundaries like physical touch without explicit consent. That too applies completely independent of gender.

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      18 days ago

      Man if I ever get comments on my appearance it goes to my head and I cant think straight for days.

      Thankfully that’s only happened like twice.

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      18 days ago

      I’m sure you’re aware but I think it needs to be said more; but I think that most women would love to pay men compliments on their appearance, but unfortunately, it sometimes leads to weird, obsessive, totally inappropriate behaviour from said men and so that scares a lot of women off.

      We, as a society, should try to discourage men from reading too much into a purely platonic compliment so that women feel more free to give men compliments without fear of super awkward and/or scary situations.

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        18 days ago

        When you say “hi” and the guy is like “I’m not into you”

        Not into you either bro. Just acknowledging you’re there and I’m here so you don’t fall off a cliff in surprise just cuz I’m walking this trail behind you. Safety measures and all that.