First off, no one knows what they are doing, everyone is doing their best, life is short. No ones best is enough, no ones life is long enough to do what they need to do. Everyone is messing up all the time. It is the human condition. The people who come out on top are those who make small manageable improvements. Did you not shit your pants today? Great job! Give yourself a star! Maybe you will never stop shitting your pants. Maybe you will. Who knows maybe shitting your pants will help you one day. Also 1000% billionaires are giving themselves stars for not shitting their pants.
Look at your situation. What do you need to do next? Gather evidence, make a choice. Was it wrong? No. Was the outcome bad? Maybe, but you didn’t know that before you did a thing. Now you have new evidence, make another choice. This is the waterslide we are all on. Oh, and guess what, if a bad happens to you, you may be traumatized by it. What’s the result? Your brain thinks avoiding a good situation is good instead of bad because the situation reminded you of the trauma. And there is nothing you can do about it. That’s life.
Why do you care if I am lying about “I have faith in you” or not. Don’t care. Stop caring. We don’t have time, you don’t have time. Take every complement at face value. Take every insult as coming from someone who doesn’t know what they are talking about. Life is too short.
Your brain and it’s feelings, they are not your friends. Your brain is trying to keep you alive in an environment that it wasn’t evolved to handle. Feel and share your feelings, they are real, but they don’t reflect reality or the facts of the situation. Use the rational part of your head as much as you can.
Life doesn’t make sense, stop trying to make it make sense. It’s your life, your water slide ride, you can choose to do with it what you will.
Edit:
Except for me of course, I am perfect and have no flaws :D
I didn’t read any of that. Why would I be interested in pointers from someone who came into this discussion being rude and insulting to me and then continued while also lying to me repeatedly, including about me to me?
I get that you suddenly realized you were talking down to someone significantly inferior to you, but this desperate attempt to make up for it isn’t going to work. Sorry.
Thank you for proving my point. You didn’t actually care, you were trying to save face because you realized you were talking to someone you are infinitely superior to, and now that you’ve realized that didn’t work, you’ve gone back to your original level of hateful comments.
And that’s fine. I deserve the hateful comments. I don’t deserve the lying. If you had just stuck to hating me like most people, it would have been fine.
How does anything I said prove that I was lying? How could I do anything to prove that I was or was not lying about that? I can’t, there is no evidence I could provide that would prove what is in my heart.
If I said “I was actually lying”, that statement could be a lie.
You proved you were lying by immediately going back from “I care” to hating me. I mean what more proof is necessary?
You don’t need to pretend or lie about caring. It’s fine. I can even give you my personal details so you can enjoy my obituary in four years when the kid turns 18.
Same thing with hating. It is something only I can know. There is no evidence I can give to prove to you that I do or do not hate you. You should read the long post I wrote, you might find some helpful stuff in there.
Ok, let me give you some pointers.
First off, no one knows what they are doing, everyone is doing their best, life is short. No ones best is enough, no ones life is long enough to do what they need to do. Everyone is messing up all the time. It is the human condition. The people who come out on top are those who make small manageable improvements. Did you not shit your pants today? Great job! Give yourself a star! Maybe you will never stop shitting your pants. Maybe you will. Who knows maybe shitting your pants will help you one day. Also 1000% billionaires are giving themselves stars for not shitting their pants.
Look at your situation. What do you need to do next? Gather evidence, make a choice. Was it wrong? No. Was the outcome bad? Maybe, but you didn’t know that before you did a thing. Now you have new evidence, make another choice. This is the waterslide we are all on. Oh, and guess what, if a bad happens to you, you may be traumatized by it. What’s the result? Your brain thinks avoiding a good situation is good instead of bad because the situation reminded you of the trauma. And there is nothing you can do about it. That’s life.
Why do you care if I am lying about “I have faith in you” or not. Don’t care. Stop caring. We don’t have time, you don’t have time. Take every complement at face value. Take every insult as coming from someone who doesn’t know what they are talking about. Life is too short.
Your brain and it’s feelings, they are not your friends. Your brain is trying to keep you alive in an environment that it wasn’t evolved to handle. Feel and share your feelings, they are real, but they don’t reflect reality or the facts of the situation. Use the rational part of your head as much as you can.
Life doesn’t make sense, stop trying to make it make sense. It’s your life, your water slide ride, you can choose to do with it what you will.
Edit: Except for me of course, I am perfect and have no flaws :D
I didn’t read any of that. Why would I be interested in pointers from someone who came into this discussion being rude and insulting to me and then continued while also lying to me repeatedly, including about me to me?
I get that you suddenly realized you were talking down to someone significantly inferior to you, but this desperate attempt to make up for it isn’t going to work. Sorry.
Yeah! Now we are talking man! That’s that lion! Bite the shit out of that zebra!
Thank you for proving my point. You didn’t actually care, you were trying to save face because you realized you were talking to someone you are infinitely superior to, and now that you’ve realized that didn’t work, you’ve gone back to your original level of hateful comments.
And that’s fine. I deserve the hateful comments. I don’t deserve the lying. If you had just stuck to hating me like most people, it would have been fine.
You: Not disagreeing with my arguments or providing a counter point.
Me: Not saying anything about my argument
You: “See this proves my point”
I don’t think you know how points work.
Nope. My point was that your claim that you had faith in me was a lie. You’re proving it.
Again, I acknowledge that I deserve your hate. I don’t deserve to be lied to.
I wasn’t lying.
How does anything I said prove that I was lying? How could I do anything to prove that I was or was not lying about that? I can’t, there is no evidence I could provide that would prove what is in my heart.
If I said “I was actually lying”, that statement could be a lie.
You proved you were lying by immediately going back from “I care” to hating me. I mean what more proof is necessary?
You don’t need to pretend or lie about caring. It’s fine. I can even give you my personal details so you can enjoy my obituary in four years when the kid turns 18.
Same thing with hating. It is something only I can know. There is no evidence I can give to prove to you that I do or do not hate you. You should read the long post I wrote, you might find some helpful stuff in there.