• yesman@lemmy.world
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    21 hours ago

    Breaking the “rules” of masculinity.

    Many years ago I worked for a medical company. A coworker (Boomer dude) and I were demonstrating a lift mechanism when I made the joke: last time I got in a harness, there was a safe word.

    The joke killed, but my coworker was mad for weeks because in the joke, I implied we were going to have sex.

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      13 hours ago

      A lot of these rules are stupid.

      Recently there was a news article about a politician dissing Kamala Harris’ husband for grocery shopping with her. The fact that anyone would even stop to consider it not being “masculine” is corny as fuck.

      I do this with my wife all the time—we both eat, and we have wildly different diets (I’m vegan)—why would I just pile all my shit on her plate and make it her responsibility? Because I might be seen as gay by someone in a MAGA hat?

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          3 hours ago

          I mean that’s fine, we’re all different. If your partner doesn’t mind doing the shopping that’s fine too.

          The problem here is that people really find it “unmanly” to go to the grocery store.

    • Fleur_@hilariouschaos.com
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      15 hours ago

      I think it’s totally reasonable to be mad at someone for being sexually suggestive, especially in a work environment.