• Jknaraa@lemmy.ml
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    9 months ago

    It was a real eye opener to me when I started dating to find out just how many women would literally ask to be raped. I probably attract that type more than average because of my physical stature, but still it really creeped me out. Never took anyone up on it.

    • Echo Dot@feddit.uk
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      9 months ago

      I don’t think you can ask to be raped. I think the not getting permission part of it is the important bit.

    • dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      9 months ago

      Yeah? How many are we talking about? I don’t necessarily have a small body count and I’ve never had this happen to me.

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        9 months ago

        Like I said, it’s probably related to how I look and present myself. I guess I fit the bill for what people with such fantasies find to be sexy.

    • Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works
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      9 months ago

      Consensual non-consent != rape.

      Though personally, I find that shit a landmine just waiting to explode - that and frankly “Yes” is hotter to me than “No*”. But more power to those able to navigate the boundaries successfully where everyone’s happier and satisfied for it. If nothing else, master communicators.

      Edit: For those who downvoted, seriously, I get it. But it’s definitely a thing, and some people happily participate. I’ve met some - usually very nice folks (as are most people I’ve met involved in kink communities). I’ll also underscore that this is very much NOT the norm - but still more common than people might think.

      Decentish broad-strokes article here: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/consensual-non-consent/