• BlanketsWithSmallpox@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Nobody should be judging any two adults about a consenting nonabusive relationship.

    After all, women polish the pearl to only age appropriate book porn that has nothing to do with poorly narrated but critically succesful actual rape fantasies built on having no idea what consent means lol.

    You can think a 30 year old and 18 year old shouldn’t be dating or fucking all you want. But I’m pretty sure the old pricks and women scoffing at it are doing more virtue signalling than they are lol.

    Don’t want people fucking 18 year olds? Raise the age of consent.

    • dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      9 months ago

      The age of consent isn’t the issue, it’s the objectification of people that haven’t even hit physical maturity yet.

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        9 months ago

        Physical maturity is such a terrible thing to quantify lmfao.

        And again, age of consent is ABSOLUTELY THE ISSUE IF YOU BELIEVE 18 YEAR OLDS ARENT SEXUALLY MATURE.

        It’s literally, not even metaphorically, the crux of the issue if you believe there’s one.

    • Jknaraa@lemmy.ml
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      9 months ago

      It was a real eye opener to me when I started dating to find out just how many women would literally ask to be raped. I probably attract that type more than average because of my physical stature, but still it really creeped me out. Never took anyone up on it.

      • Echo Dot@feddit.uk
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        9 months ago

        I don’t think you can ask to be raped. I think the not getting permission part of it is the important bit.

      • dangblingus@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        9 months ago

        Yeah? How many are we talking about? I don’t necessarily have a small body count and I’ve never had this happen to me.

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          9 months ago

          Like I said, it’s probably related to how I look and present myself. I guess I fit the bill for what people with such fantasies find to be sexy.

      • Cracks_InTheWalls@sh.itjust.works
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        9 months ago

        Consensual non-consent != rape.

        Though personally, I find that shit a landmine just waiting to explode - that and frankly “Yes” is hotter to me than “No*”. But more power to those able to navigate the boundaries successfully where everyone’s happier and satisfied for it. If nothing else, master communicators.

        Edit: For those who downvoted, seriously, I get it. But it’s definitely a thing, and some people happily participate. I’ve met some - usually very nice folks (as are most people I’ve met involved in kink communities). I’ll also underscore that this is very much NOT the norm - but still more common than people might think.

        Decentish broad-strokes article here: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/consensual-non-consent/